We understand that for many of us, saying goodbye to a pet is as devastating as losing a family member - because that’s what they are.

Pets can give us unconditional love and companionship. When they die, the quietness at home, the change in routine and the sudden absence can feel huge. This grief is real and valid.

You may miss the sound of their paws, their favourite sleeping spot or the way they followed you around the house. These small things can be very upsetting.

Ways to cope

These ideas can help you work through your grief in your own time:

• know that this is normal and completely acceptable

• talk to someone supportive – a friend, whānau /family, neighbour or counsellor

• make a small memorial – a photo frame, a candle or a place in your garden

• write about your pet – what you loved, memories or a goodbye message

• take care of yourself – take time out, rest and make time for small, enjoyable moments.

Supporting children

Losing a pet can be very hard for children. Often, it will be their first experience of death and it can be difficult for them to understand what’s happened to their friend.

Offer simple, honest explanations, and encourage them to talk about their feelings and memories.

Pet loss, grief support and counselling

Unfortunately, the grief that comes with losing a pet is often misunderstood. Despite this, we need to allow for a process of grief when we lose a pet.

Visit Pets and People for support to help you get through your grief. Counselling rates will apply and vary.

Read an article on the effects pets can have on our lives and the grief you can feel when they leave.

Call the New Zealand Pet Loss Support hotline on 0800 114 421 to speak to an experienced pet-grief counsellor.

Kia kaha.