When dogs don’t get along - a guide for owners

Reactive behaviour

If your dog barks, lunges, or pulls frantically when they see other dogs on walks, you’re not alone. This reactive behaviour is surprisingly common, and understanding why it happens is the first step to helping your dog.

There are two main reasons dogs react this way. Some dogs are fearful, which is often because they didn’t get enough positive exposure to other dogs as puppies.

Others are simply frustrated. They desperately want to say hello, but being held back on the leash creates tension that explodes into barking and lunging.

Living in a busy, growing community like Waiheke can make this especially challenging. Perhaps you got a dog imagining peaceful walks where you would chat with neighbours, or relaxing at a local cafe while your dog waited calmly beside you as people and pups strolled by.

When your dog reacts badly instead, those dreams can feel out of reach. The good news? With patience and the right approach, many dogs can learn to feel more comfortable around their four-legged neighbours.

Some reactive dogs were actually over-socialised as puppies. Well-meaning owners think socialisation means letting their puppy greet every dog they meet. But this creates a problem: the puppy learns to expect a greeting from every dog they see. As the dog matures, they pull desperately towards each passing dog. What seemed cute in a puppy, can be annoying for the owner and frustrating for the dog when it is prevented from expressing behaviours that it really wants to do.

Management strategies

If you’re dealing with a reactive dog, the behaviour can improve with training, but you’ll need patience and consistency. Start with management strategies like walking at quiet times and choose less-travelled routes to reduce encounters.

Reward calm behaviour

When you spot another dog, cross the street or step behind a car to block your dog’s view. Distance is your friend! Reward any calm behaviour with an immediate treat and praise. You’re teaching them that good things happen when other dogs are around.

Alternative bahaviour

Another good tip is to teach an alternative behaviour. Train your dog to look at you for a treat when another dog appears, creating a ‘check-in’ behaviour.

Long leads

Long leads are great as you can let your dog wander away from you, but you can quickly get them back if you need to.

Bandanas

Consider using a lead sleeve or bandana that says “Needs Space” or “In Training.”

Muzzles

A muzzle can also be helpful as a safety measure that signals to others to keep their distance.

Dog trainers and behaviourists

Managing a reactive dog takes time, but small improvements add up to real progress. If you need extra support, a qualified dog trainer or behaviourist can help you create a plan that works for both you and your four-legged friend.

For recommendations on dog trainers and behaviourists, contact the WISCA Animal Advocate on 0275395107 or email wisca@wisca.co.nz.